How to connect with people

The ability to ask good questions is one of the main skills that you can use to keep a conversation going. So, let’s get some practice. In this article, I’m going to provide communication tips to help you increase your impact, and lead your teams with more excellence.

A lot of times in conversations, we feel like we’re supposed to tell great stories and dazzle people with how amazing we are, but oftentimes the reverse is true. The ability to ask good questions in a social situation or a professional situation is one of the main ways to keep the ball rolling and keep that nice ping-pong volley going back and forth.

There are two types of questions that we’re going to explore. The first is called an easy question. Essentially, this is just a direct question, a question that you can answer with a yes or a no or quick fill in the blank like a one-word answer or short phrase. And that’s the way you want to start conversations. 

Once you start asking direct questions it becomes very easy for the other person to start the ball rolling with giving those short little answers. Then you can follow up with an open-ended question, and that’s the second type of question. Once you have a little bit of content to work with, ask a follow-up. And that usually requires a lot more detail, it’s going to get them talking and opening up. That’s when you really see the conversation get dynamic and have that good back-and-forth detailed rich nature. 

So, easy question and then a follow-up or probing question that often starts with a how or what. Some people say you can also start with a ‘why’. However, I found in my experience that the question that starts with ‘why’ sometimes can make the other person feel a little defensive like they’ve got to justify their explanations. So I personally avoid it. 

Conversation is one of the main ways that we can connect with people in social situations and professional situations. It can establish you as a good communicator so that you can lead the teams and the organizations that you’re part of with higher levels of excellence. So, you start with those easy questions and follow up with an open-ended question, and you’re almost guaranteed to get a nice conversation going. And, if you want to know more about random questions to be asked to people you meet around, I suggest you visit On this website, you can get questions about various topics that will help you to start a good conversation.

I really hope you found this post useful and informative. Do you have any queries or suggestions related to this post? If you have any, feel free to leave your thoughts and opinions in the comment section below. Also, let me know if you want to find out more about ways to start a conversation. I will be glad to share more insights with you.

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